Many entrepreneurs are good at business but lack the art of good conversation. If you are a boss spontaneous interaction is a just day-to-day affair, but if you are a staff then commanding like a boss is an extraordinary art which has to be held as holy. Among Southern Nigeria Igbo tribe the art of conversation is regarded very highly. But sadly this characteristic of communication among humans is lost somewhere.
Oprah Winfrey, US entertainment mogul, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist says that great communication begins with connection. All talk show hosts long for acceptance and significance. In the initial stages of conversation, one may see a lot of throat clearing, display uncomforting, and sometimes may-be silence too. If someone wants to converse then it is best to build rapport with the listener. As a businessman, you need to have conversations with staff, clients, and many different people, and all require a different approach. If you are unable to win these conversations then you may be missing out on golden opportunities.
Be cool and composed
You can charm your way through conversation which is pleasing and admired. You will have to trend fine line between being assertive and aggressive. Since you wish to command the conversation you will have to keep yourself calm and composed.
Speak less and to the point
Your body language and facial expression play a crucial role in the conversation. They can send both appropriate and inappropriate message across very strongly. Always be in your natural best, charming and beautiful. Let your vibes, aura, and style speak for you. It is better to speak less as each uttered word holds authenticity and legitimacy. So the more you speak, more will be chances of you making mistakes.
Involve yourself in the conversation
In fact, nobody wants to make a mistake. It is better to be a good listener. It is a good manner to lean a bit forward so as the participant thinks that you are equally involved and interested in the conversation. When the participant feels that he is being heard this, in turn, will attract him to listen to you.
Use quotes and be simple
Never lose the spirit of conversation. With a decent vocabulary, modulating pitch of voice and tone of speaking are a charming art to hook your participant towards your conversation. Humans have a very short attention span and will mentally move out of the conversation if it is too lengthy and boring. In case if another participant is stubborn, to put your point through come up with simple and practical quotes and examples that will leave him speechless. So when you are commanding be loud and assertive and polite when requesting.
Be confident while conversing
Be confident in what you are speaking because your confidence will speak volumes about what you intend to say. Do not be afraid to say a direct “no” if you do not agree to the point in question. At certain intervals take pauses when you speak, this will give time to listeners what you actually want to say.
See to it that you converse is around the topic(s) which are in your command and is your strength. In between spice it up with humor to keep it light and going.